An abnormal, yet wonderful looking beehive, circa 1960s!"Today as during the Romantic movement, what we usually want unconsciously is a fancy human being with no flaws. When the mental picture we have of someone we love is colored by the wishes of childhood, we may love that picture rather than the real person behind it. Naturally, we are disappointed when the person we love does not conform to our picture. Since this kind of disappointment has no doubt happened to us before, one might suppose we would then tear up the picture and start all over. On the contrary we keep the picture and tear up the person. Small wonder that divorce courts are full of couples who never gave themselves a chance to know the real persons behind the pictures in their lives....Our need for an imperfectionist attitude could be said to be based on the fact that we cannot enjoy what we are perpetually choking in ourselves or others. One of the greatest gifts we can bestow on another person is to allow breathing room for that person. When we refuse to provide room for that which does not harmonize with our picture of the perfect, we are takers of life in the name of LOVE."
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